Daily Archives: Thursday, August 7, 2014

Finding the magic, courage and faith in the pursuit of openness… maybe.

In the lifelong pursuit of being a member of the collective world, some things help facilitate things between all of us on this planet. because left to our unhampered instincts, I think we would be quite feral.

Communication is pretty much at the forefront of that, wouldn’t you say?

By that, I suppose I mean relationships.

Of course, animals develop relationships, bonds, and/or what have you… but there is a something among humans that relies on all forms of communication.

While I would say this is true of everyone, I think it is especially for people like me, who have chosen to embrace more than one region and thus have to navigate different cultures, environments, and things of that nature,

I came across this article, which got me to thinking about its list of 5 things that are better than being right (which I saw as a catchy article title that is ultimately about things that make you a better part of a community).

My first reaction was to Openness, something I am not all that good at.

I tend to keep things closely guarded and close. I don’t reveal things until I have to or if I must. There are many conversations with family in which I will hear them say “I didn’t know that, what didn’t you tell me?”

I don’t know if I have always been this way, but I think I am less open now than I was in… say, my teens. But, I think a lot of teens are that way.

So, I was struck by the notion of openness.

And as always I refer to consensus of definition and look to a dictionary (in this case dictionary.com). The two relevant parts of the definition are here:

ready to entertain new ideas; not biased or prejudiced: an open mind
unreserved or candid
I think I have a better grasp on the first one, I will listen, though I do tend to put things I am told to some rigor. I think this drives some people nuts, and if they waffle and refuse to accept consensus of definition, I tend to close off because who can argue with someone who sets up circular non testable arguments.

So problem number one – I lose faith.

Faith is a state of openness or trust. ~ Alan Watts

I do not talk about politics and religion with people. Oh, I will skim the surface so there is an impression of what I actually think and believe but, most have no idea… and we have problem number two.

I refuse the magic.

There’s just some magic in truth and honesty and openness. ~ Frank Ocean

So, I tend toward duty, and consider myself courageous in many ways. I don’t forgo new opportunities out of something like fear, but I do tend to default to duty.

So, here, in this instance, I lack courage.

“It takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else.” ~ Erma Bombeck

The good news is that these are all things I can work on… if I want to be more open, that is… not sure what that would look like for me? I like things protected and nestled in the sacred spaces of my soul.

Originally posted here.

Finding the magic, courage and faith in the pursuit of openness… maybe.

In the lifelong pursuit of being a member of the collective world, some things help facilitate things between all of us on this planet. because left to our unhampered instincts, I think we would be quite feral.

Communication is pretty much at the forefront of that, wouldn’t you say?

By that, I suppose I mean relationships.

Of course, animals develop relationships, bonds, and/or what have you… but there is a something among humans that relies on all forms of communication.

While I would say this is true of everyone, I think it is especially for people like me, who have chosen to embrace more than one region and thus have to navigate different cultures, environments, and things of that nature,

I came across this article, which got me to thinking about its list of 5 things that are better than being right (which I saw as a catchy article title that is ultimately about things that make you a better part of a community).

My first reaction was to Openness, something I am not all that good at. 

I tend to keep things closely guarded and close. I don’t reveal things until I have to or if I must.  There are many conversations with family in which I will hear them say “I didn’t know that, what didn’t you tell me?”

I don’t know if I have always been this way, but I think I am less open now than I was in… say, my teens. But, I think a lot of teens are that way.

So, I was struck by the notion of openness.

And as always I refer to consensus of definition and look to a dictionary (in this case dictionary.com). The two relevant parts of the definition are here:

  • ready to entertain new ideas; not biased or prejudiced: an open mind
  • unreserved or candid
I think I have a better grasp on the first one, I will listen, though I do tend to put things I am told to some rigor. I think this drives some people nuts, and if they waffle and refuse to accept consensus of definition, I tend to close off because who can argue with someone that sets up circular non testable arguments. 

So problem number one – I lose faith.



Faith is a state of openness or trust. ~ Alan Watts  


I do not talk about politics and religion with people. Oh, I will skim the surface so there is an impression of what I actually think and believe but, most have no idea… and we have problem number two.

I refuse the magic.

There’s just some magic in truth and honesty and openness. ~ Frank Ocean


So, I tend toward duty, and consider myself courageous in many ways. I don’t forgo new opportunities out of something like fear, but I do tend to default to duty.


So, here, in this instance, I lack courage.

“It takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else.”  ~ Erma Bombeck


The good news is that these are all things I can work on… if I want to be more open, that is… not sure what that would look like for me? I like things protected and nestled in the sacred spaces of my soul.